There is this girl in your school or neighborhood. You tell your friends that you like this girl. Your friends say,"Dude, you can't have that babe. You are not her type". You reply,"I can have her". This argument continues for a while. One of your friends suggests betting cash, kind or just your pride on the probability of your winning the girl. You feel challenged, so you agree. And ofcourse, the girl doesn't know about the bet.
This is a trend which is in vogue. I have talked to male friends of mine who have agreed that is common,(while stating that it is not all guys that indulge in this barbarous act). If you think that betting to win a girl is a good thing, why do you hide it from the girl? Oh yes, just what I was thinking! It's obvious what the result would be, right?
To most people who would say it is not a big deal, you are mistaken. To the ladies, it is a very big deal because it is an insult. Bet to pass your exams, bet to succeed in life; there are lots of things to bet on, why the hell should you bet on a full-blooded human being, huh?
You see, some guys treat ladies in ways which they wouldn't like their own sisters to be treated. Seriously, just think of it. Every time the girl calls you or smiles at you, you send a report back to your circle of friends. When at last the girl succumbs to your web of lies, (not knowing that she is a trophy), you shamelessly brag about it to your friends and win the prize.
Some males even go to the point of betting to sleep with a girl, which flabbergasts me. Is your head there just to add to your height? Or were your manners cut alongside your umbilical cord? In some cases, the girl says she's not yet ready for sex. You tell your friends about it and bet to sleep with her within a particular period of time. As soon as you eat the cake, you tell your friends and boost your ego. After all of these, you still go ahead to dump the girl. If you manage to keep her, your friends know each time you sleep with her. This is a cause for alarm and screams IMMATURITY.
This is not the time to demean ladies and paint them as cheap. It is time for you to grow up and be the man you claim you are. As a male friend of mine said, (yes a male friend, not a female friend for those of you who think that I'm writing this only from a female perspective), "For a lady to sleep with you, she is showing you how much you mean to her and the trust she has for you. Although my opinion might be wrong to some people. Ladies need to develop certain rules in life of asking the right questions, because I'm sure if most of them do, the lament of had I known will not come up".
Seriously, guys, you should treat that lady as you would love your sister to be treated. What is that saying again? Yes, I remember. "What goes around, comes back around". You might not know this, but when you tell your friends about your sexual escapades, they undress the girl in their mind's eyes. Yes o, they do. Life is full of ups and downs. Don't add to it by tarnishing the image of an innocent girl who loves you. Rumors about sex spread like wildfire. If you don't even love the girl, atleast respect her. Don't sit, lie, stand, walk in uour group and talk and destroy her future. It might be that you later love her and regret all of these, but if and when she gets to hear it; hmmmmm believe you me, it'll create a vacuum in your relationship. Nobody likes to be played, used or toyed with.
Sex before marriage is a sin before God. So, if you indulge in it and still go ahead to boast of it, just create a mental picture of the situation you are in.
This is a trend which is in vogue. I have talked to male friends of mine who have agreed that is common,(while stating that it is not all guys that indulge in this barbarous act). If you think that betting to win a girl is a good thing, why do you hide it from the girl? Oh yes, just what I was thinking! It's obvious what the result would be, right?
To most people who would say it is not a big deal, you are mistaken. To the ladies, it is a very big deal because it is an insult. Bet to pass your exams, bet to succeed in life; there are lots of things to bet on, why the hell should you bet on a full-blooded human being, huh?
You see, some guys treat ladies in ways which they wouldn't like their own sisters to be treated. Seriously, just think of it. Every time the girl calls you or smiles at you, you send a report back to your circle of friends. When at last the girl succumbs to your web of lies, (not knowing that she is a trophy), you shamelessly brag about it to your friends and win the prize.
Some males even go to the point of betting to sleep with a girl, which flabbergasts me. Is your head there just to add to your height? Or were your manners cut alongside your umbilical cord? In some cases, the girl says she's not yet ready for sex. You tell your friends about it and bet to sleep with her within a particular period of time. As soon as you eat the cake, you tell your friends and boost your ego. After all of these, you still go ahead to dump the girl. If you manage to keep her, your friends know each time you sleep with her. This is a cause for alarm and screams IMMATURITY.
This is not the time to demean ladies and paint them as cheap. It is time for you to grow up and be the man you claim you are. As a male friend of mine said, (yes a male friend, not a female friend for those of you who think that I'm writing this only from a female perspective), "For a lady to sleep with you, she is showing you how much you mean to her and the trust she has for you. Although my opinion might be wrong to some people. Ladies need to develop certain rules in life of asking the right questions, because I'm sure if most of them do, the lament of had I known will not come up".
Seriously, guys, you should treat that lady as you would love your sister to be treated. What is that saying again? Yes, I remember. "What goes around, comes back around". You might not know this, but when you tell your friends about your sexual escapades, they undress the girl in their mind's eyes. Yes o, they do. Life is full of ups and downs. Don't add to it by tarnishing the image of an innocent girl who loves you. Rumors about sex spread like wildfire. If you don't even love the girl, atleast respect her. Don't sit, lie, stand, walk in uour group and talk and destroy her future. It might be that you later love her and regret all of these, but if and when she gets to hear it; hmmmmm believe you me, it'll create a vacuum in your relationship. Nobody likes to be played, used or toyed with.
Sex before marriage is a sin before God. So, if you indulge in it and still go ahead to boast of it, just create a mental picture of the situation you are in.